I have done a lot of traveling in my life so far and most of it I have done solo. For much of my life I have thrived on the singularity of the independent soul, living up to my great American expectations and loving it! I don’t know accurately how long it has been brewing in me, but there has overtime, been a percolation of desire to share experiences, open up and get to know neighbors, develop deep friendships, know my family and its roots. One could say I might be be honoring a more European side of my soul.
My partner and I just got back to Nantucket from an adventure in California, I have been many times, even lived in a few parts of that great, sunny state. In all my adventures there my best times were when I shared them with someone close. Once when my dear friends and I shared a campsite for the summer in Yosemite and now again as I traveled tip to tail of the state with my life partner. I noticed how standing under the canopy of the ancient Redwoods increased its power because I could glance over and share a wordless moment with someone I also experienced a sense of awe and wonder with. That is the key in sharing travel and adventure with someone else, that I know the connection I have with my travel mate. I experience profound, generous love with my partner, he inspires me. Our shared commitment inspires me, our ability to communicate comforts me, our humor together lightens me. I learn a lot about surrendering to love when I stay present to the deeper connection I have with my partner.
As I continue to practice and adventure with Loving Kindness I notice that it is easier to soften my heart when life isn’t going my way, the more I soften the greater capacity I have to experience awe and wonder, those are feelings I like! When I am standing under the Redwoods with Jared and my awe/wonder factor goes up by a factor of infinity it isn’t just because I am standing next to a warm body going ” oh WOW, look at these fucking tall trees!”, it’s because I am open to the connection I have with my partner and the same connection I have with the nature around me. I am sure if a stranger was standing next to me we might glance at each other and mummer a passing “wow, pretty impressive” and then move on our separate ways.
So, I am wondering about this connection business. In the practice of Loving Kindness, I am learning a lot about how to stay open even in situations that range from uncomfortable to outright “Fuck this, I’m outta here!”. The practice encourages staying put, noticing where I open and where I close down. It seems to imply that I could have the same kind of powerful connection with a stranger as I do with my lover. I actually do believe that, I am just not there yet…and so I continue to practice, practice, practice.
SIDE BAR: This Blog came into existence as a format for me to explore and express topics that impact and shape my business as a crafter/sales person. As I meander through topics like partnership, love, kindness, etc, I am reminded that these topics are as pertinent to my business practices as they are to my day to day interactions with humanity. For me, I believe it is critical to my mental health and vitality to shape my business with the same values I carve out my life. So when you stumble upon this entry remember that if I seem to be heading off on a tangent unrelated to income, production and earning capacity that there is no deviation from the path, its all related…blessings and love.